love is a state of being

I was asking Petunia about romantic love in her world, and she said "what's that?"

Well, I said, you don't have situations where people fall in love, and then live happily ever after? And then she laughed, in that ever so unusual way that she does, and said, no they don't fall in and out of love, because love isn't something that one falls in and out of, and they are already in the state of love, so what would be the point?

She said, your idea of romantic love is a movie plot, and it is always the same plot. They meet, they fall in love, they breakup, they get back together, roll credits. But to play the roll it has to go on and on in the same process, breakup, get back together, breakup, get back together, till finally you give it up or find someone new and start over. Sure, there is something in the chemical analysis of breaking apart (separation) and reuniting again, but it doesn't have to played out in that manner to achieve the desired affect.

In other words, if you already love yourself, then there isn't ever a reason to create breaking apart, because there isn't anything to break apart. But you can experience the constant feeling of coming back together, because it is like finding other pieces of yourself to cherish. And it is never limited to certain individuals, because what would be the point of that also? You would want to find as many pieces of yourself as you can to cherish, with no limitations of expression.

They don't have marriage as we know it, they have agreements to be together when they want to be together, and the freedom to do otherwise. There is never a search for "the one," cause there isn't just one, there is an all that blends into the one you already are, and the chemical release expands all the time.

Anyway, it's a lot less rules to have to learn, remember, and play by.

Thanks, Petunia, for another bud of information.